Founder of the Survivors. With. Voices Foundation Alissa R. Jones is an Author, Motivational Speaker, Woman of God, but Most of All She is a Survivor! Her New Book "The Stones That Built Me Strong" shares how she overcame and created strength from all the hardness. The book also benefits the S.W.V Foundation which aims to help women embrace their seen and unseen scars, find a voice, and heal.
Alissa Shares a bit of her story with below:
|I Forgave, I Healed, and I'm Good. by: Alissa R. Jones|
--There comes a time where you look at your life and truly digest your past along with all the things you’ve been through, and decide that your past doesn’t have to dictate your future.
For many years I was silenced by fear and suppressed the bad memories of my childhood past. At the age of 11 I was abused by a man my mother let rent a room in our home. Going through a divorce and struggling with the fear of financial instability, my mother opened the door to a man who stolen my innocence. The man that rented a room in my home became my biggest fear and caused a constant, consistent trembling in my soul. When I was introduced to him, I was told to call him “Uncle Roger.”
Uncle Roger started to gain my trust by buying me gifts. To thank him, I was asked to sit on his lap. At 11 years old, I wasn’t accustomed to trickery or unsavory conduct of men. My so-called “Uncle” was taking advantage of my innocence. He began the abuse by kissing me on the cheek which, in turn, became kissing me on my mouth.
For months I spent most of my afterschool time trying to avoid him, but he would only creep upstairs and find me. I did my best to find other things to do that would keep me away from him but somehow, he always manipulated the environment so that he could be alone with me. My mom wasn’t always around, either working or running errands, so I was left to my own devices and thus, to Uncle Roger’s.
Uncle Roger took my virginity at age 11.
I was made to have intercourse with him on a regular basis. Almost daily. In the beginning, I yelled for my mom and dad at the top of my lungs. As the days began to multiply, the cries got softer and softer as I came to realize that no matter how loud I yelled, no one was coming. I learned so much on my own through those days; I would learn to care for my body on my own, to take a bath just to get the filth off of me after each occurrence. One of the reasons I consider my abuse to be the foundational stone that made me strong is that it caused me to learn to fight. It caused me to learn how to grapple with enemies, with my own fears and with things that seem to be outside of my control. I would carry this desire to fight into all areas of my life.
I walked through life with hatred for my mother blaming her for the abuse that I endured.
I walked through life trying to make her feel the pain that I felt when my innocence was stolen from me.
Then at the age of 13 learning my father is not my biological father added even more hatred and anger.
Hurtful stone after hurtful stone being thrown from every direction; when were they going to end.
The negative thoughts affected many areas of my life. It affected my intimate relationships, my friendships because I had a lack of trust. That negativity and lack of forgiveness caused me to miss out on life. What I mean by missing out on life is I was stuck in my past not living life and experiencing what life had for me- I was letting life live me.
I needed to get out of that state of mind – not only to start living for what life had for me but to begin to release the pain that held me captive for many years.
I had to walk through life of many mistakes and bad decision making based on the foundation my life was built on. After many years of repeated mistakes and not dealing with the issues within I am at a place in my life where
I Forgave, I’m Healed & I’m Good.
Continue Reading the full story at im-good.com
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Thank you for sharing your story. You are an inspiration.ReplyDelete
Bless you and thank you for sharing. I can understand some of the same feelings. I was physically abused as a infant, verbally and emotionally abused, and at ten I was raped by my brother till I was 15. I to learned to be a fighter, I also let my hate and hurt control my life , it was not intill I Jesus found my broken soul did I see how my strength and fight could help me help orders, I let go of my past hurting me and used each memory as a stepping stone to stand on, I stand a speak to help others find their strength.ReplyDelete