Mastering Self Control: Emotions vs Feelings



        Realizing the difference between our emotions and our feelings is a concept that is important for us to learn if we desire to master true self-control. It is necessary that we maintain constant awareness of our bodies and our environment, as those are the two main sources that ignite triggers in our brain causing our emotions to activate. Once we become aware or conscious of what is taking place in our bodies, we then create a feeling as a reaction to that emotion. For example, when some people have to  speak in front of a crowd; their palms may get sweaty, mouth may get dry, and they become nervous.  Well, these are the natural emotions that are particular to their specific nature. What that person does in response to those different emotions, makes up the way they feel. As an example, a feeling to these emotions may develop as inadequacy, causing the person to completely abandon their public speaking  event and withdraw from their audience.

       It is important for us to not automatically react to the developments of our emotions. What we should do is take note of what is happening to cause a specific emotion to arise, and acknowledge what type of feelings we possess toward our emotion. If the feeling you get from an emotion is positive take a moment to embrace the feeling. What aspects of that feeling do you enjoy the most?  What are you seeing at the present moment? What are you hearing? Is there any noticeable sent in the environment? If you really have a chance to take in the moment, think about some activities you can partake in to recreate this experience on a regular basis.
      If you notice the feeling that develop in response to a particular emotion is negative, find some positive affirmations you can recite to ease the tension in your body. Some examples of positive affirmations are "I believe I have the power to face anything that comes my way'', or "Even if this does not workout, I know this specific event does not determine the outcome of the next,"  or If nobody else believes in what I do, I believe in it-and that enough for me". Another way to counter the effects of negative feelings is to develop coping skills. When an emotion arises that leads us to have overwhelming feelings of negativity or anxiety, we can use coping skills to bring us back to a normative state of mind. Some examples of coping skills include singing a favorite song, writing in your journal, or even crying. Sometimes we have to give ourselves the permission to cry since some people view crying as a weakness. But truthfully, crying allows us to get over some emotions that otherwise we would hold on to.

      Getting a grip on controlling or feelings by understanding our emotions gives us the foundation for self-control. Understanding these principles and concepts not only allow us to identify our triggers, but allow us to control our actions that allow us to fulfill our purpose. Being able to control our feelings to particular emotions allow us to maintain control of atmosphere. We decide what is acceptable and unacceptable. We control our mind and our behaviors. With self-control comes consistency, decisiveness, and the development to dedication which are all needed to sustain a successful lifestyle.

Carla Marcelle, is a Transformation Purpose Coach and founder of she's 31 Ministries which is dedicated to the advancement of the Kingdom of God through the edification, enlightenment, education of the principles to maintain a successful lifestyle based on the foundation of God .{Join the She's31 group on Facebook}


Discovering Propitiation: Where Would We Be Without It?


Propitiation: A word that was stuck in the back of my mind, lodged in my subconscious for a while now, but would resurface every now and again. Since lately however, the word has been coming to the forefront of my mind more often. This word, honestly I did not exactly know what it meant, but I know I heard it in a song some where. As the word Propitiation began to stick with me more extensively, I figured it was time to put a definition to this mysterious word that was consistently on my mind, and determine why this word was becoming more compelling to me here and now in this season of my life.
        When I finally looked up the word, what was revealed to me was amazing. First, because the Christmas season was just at here, and second, because I have been spiritually growing into my true identity with Christ. Now, I know you must be wondering what is the significance of this word. OK, here it is.

"Propitiation: The turning away of wrath because of an offering" ( 2016)
 As this definition began to fill my thought process, I began to realize God in his perfection cannot entertain sin, he cannot allow it into his presence, nor can it be accepted in the heavenly realm. Sin in its self is the disconnection to God, the Creator. Therefore, it is important for there to be some sort of reconciliation to restore the connection to God. That reconciliation is Christ.

He [Christ] is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours, but also for the sins of the whole world (1 John 2:2 {NIV})

As I read this verse, I thought about how Christ died to save the whole world. Through his death on the cross, took the punishment that was meant for me and you, because we are sinners, so that we would not have to endure that punishment from God. In this way Christ satisfied the wrath or anger of God that was meant for us. Romans 3:25 depicts the sacrifice of Christ for our sins.

For God sent Christ Jesus to take the punishment for our sins and to end all God's anger towards us. He used Christ's blood and our faith as a means of saving us from His wrath. In this way he was being entirely fair even though he did not punish those who sinned in former times. For he was looking forward to the time when Christ would take away those sins.  (Romans  3:25 {TLB})

In reading this, I think about times in weakness of emotions, where I sometimes have no filter because I simply react to a present situation, not thinking, and allowing my sinful nature (anger and vulgarity) to consume me, and totally overtake me without thought. I think about times where I allow my  desire for worldly pleasures to dictate my actions, and give into different things that please and gratify my sinful desires; and I am grateful I have an out. I can repent, and ask for forgiveness with  sincerity and know I am forgiven. Even when I fall a thousand times, I can still get back up and know because of what Christ did on the cross, his grace is sufficient and I am justified. I am able to proceed with a fresh slate to continue in my spirituality until I reach my destination in Christ.
Therefore, there is no condemnation for those who who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1 {NIV})

The whole propitiation concept is the very reason for the existence of Christ. Think about it, Jesus Christ, God in the form of man coming to Earth to satisfy his own anger, so that we can have grace and a chance to be reconnected to God. Absolutely an amazing gesture to prove how valuable we are to God.

I give Honor and Glory to King Christ Jesus AKA God, because they are 2 in the same, for the gift of Propitiation. Who else loved you enough to endure such a great Wrath on your behalf to restore your connection to God? In your down fall, think of the Propitiation and how without it there would be no more chances for you. Think about how God saw it fit that you have the opportunity for restoration, and allow that to be your motivation for advancement in your spirituality.

Carla Marcelle, is a Spiritual Transformation Coach and founder of she's 31 Ministries which dedicated to the advancement of the Kingdom of God through the edification, enlightenment, education of the principles of God.


Who Do You Love? Are you For Sure?

a smile for you today!

"love is the only thing you get more of by giving it away." -quote

Love is about giving, and even if you don't wanna give, even if you are tired of giving, give some more...wisdom is understanding who to give that love to, how to give it, and when to give it.

relationships with family, friends, significant others are not always going be the best of times. Things can get petty, we can begin to take each other for granted. It's imperative to understand what relationships and connections are worth it...worth the effort, worth the time, worth the compromise. 

It takes these things to keep the relationships we truly value, and the ones that are good for us in tact.

If your mom is getting on your nerves get over it, if your boyfriend is being silly get over it (if it's worth it). If you wanna tell your sister where she can go, don't do it. hold on a little longer don't act in a manner that you will regret in relationships with anyone. Of course the  ways you treat your "best friend" are gonna be different from how you treat just a friend. However in all things be love show love. 

Familiarity is bound to create contempt sometimes, but when our soul gets familiar with the love of God we're bound to reflect it and give it out.

the question it all boils down to is "how much do you love yourself?" How much do you think you are worth it?  Hurting people hurt people, but loving people love people. We get love from the source, from the almighty God of creation. So if you are in need of love today. Take a look inward...spend some time in prayer and meditating on the love of God. It's the best love there is and ever will be!!

"A friend loves at all times..." Proverbs 17:17

"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12: 30-31

The greatest commandment is love!!


Gospel Star Shirley Caesar Gives Forward as #UNameItChallenge Goes Viral

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What happens when you put Shirley on the beat?! The holiday anthem of the year apparently. If you've been anywhere near social media, you've probably heard Pastor Caesar's voice proclaiming her wealth of "Beans, Greens, Potatoes, Tomatoes, Ram, Ham, Hogs, Dogs..." You...know the rest!! 

Recently Radio Host Willie Moore Jr. talked to Pastor Caesar and asked her if she had heard that the clip was going viral. She most certainly did. The Gospel Superstar announced her plans via Facebook to gather proceeds through her UNameItShirley website to help other ministries and her own excel at giving back to the community.

Who knew Shirley's classic sound over a hip hop beat could gain popularity so many years later...maybe going down in history as one of her greatest hits just because of it's rotation around the holidays.

Yeah, I know greatest hit may be a little bit extra given her amazing track record, but it's good to know Shirley's gospel sound is making waves around the world. It goes to show that what we listen to and consume can be changed. Most adolescents in the teen and millennial generation today don't listen to gospel music as much, often because of the lack of excitement in it's tone. Given Mama Shirley's crossover success, does gospel music have a chance to speak to the younger generation by putting old gospel tracks on a beat?!... Maybe.

Given the popularity of the challenge there really are no good excuses for humdrum gospel tunes, I mean unless it's really deep and that's what we're in the mood for. All things have their purpose.

Whatever the case, what we listen to is what will feed us, we are what we consistently eat. When it comes to the media we digest, the things we choose to watch and listen too, we can choose to consume differently. We can choose wisely and eat well. 

Grateful to see good giving forward!! Alright Now Shirley!! We Support You.


Microsoft Authors In Business Event (Recap)

Atlanta, GA. -- on November 5th 2016 Best-Selling Author and Business Owner Desiree Lee hosted the first ever "Authors In Business Microsoft Book Signing" at Microsoft Store in Lenox Mall.

The event featured 15 Dynamic Authors from the around the country who are apart of the “Authors In Business Self-Publishing Community".  

A few featured Authors from the event from (left to right): Melissa Ruth, Mark A. Jackson, Myra J, Stepter, and Khalilah Wilbourn.

Featured Authors Included: 

Tonia Quarterman
Tongela Curry
Synetta Crispin
Subira Folami
Rob Gegner
Myra J. Stepter
Melissa Ruth
Mark A. Jackson
Tyesha Peak
Debra D. Jones
Annah Lewis
Andrea Stickland
Rick Stickland
Lisa Halls
Khalilah Wilbourn 
Glendora Dvine

The Microsoft Store was packed with fans and onlookers, those who attended gained powerful insight from the Authors. Prizes were given away to audience members. The event was very engaging, from the ranging topics to the energy of the crowd, it was one book signing that did not disappoint. 

The atmosphere was filled with excitement as the Authors shared their wisdom and expertise.

VOW-Inspire Network was on hand to cover the event and got to feature some Great pictures on the fan page.

Pictured from (Left to Right): Hostess Desiree Lee, Event Attendee, and Featured AIB Author Lisa Halls.

If you would like to know more about the Microsoft Authors In Business Self-Publishing Community, the book signing, Authors, or get wisdom on Self-Publishing you can visit Desiree Lee's website: and contact her directly through the webpage.


Motherless Daughter's Foundation Hosts 4th Annual Gala to Benefit Program

Atlanta, GA. -- Saturday Evening October 16th The Motherless Daughters Foundation hosted their 4th Annual Gala in support of it's mission to enrich the lives of young girls living without their natural mothers. VOW-Inspire Network (Voice Of Wisdom) was grateful to be selected to cover the event.

Beautiful young ladies! Participants in the Motherless Daughter's Foundation program.

The Motherless Daughter's Foundation is a mentoring program that offers year round support so that girls can become empowered to embrace every aspect of adolescent life and ultimately succeed in spite of challenging circumstances. Young ladies ages 9-15 participate in a variety of educational workshops and experiences.

The gala also served as a silent auction in order to raise money for the program. Taliah Waajid founder of Taliah Waajid Natural Hair Care Products was a sponsor and Honoree at the event. Fellow Honorees included GA State Senator Donzella James, Director of Public Affairs for Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport Myrna White, and former NFL Defensive Player DeMario Pressley.

Honorary Mother Xernona Clayton

Beautiful music and well-dressed attendees filled the halls of the Georgia International Convention Center. The gala which is one of many events that the foundation hosts on behalf of the mission was and inspiration and a success. Hopefully the organization will be heading toward many more galas in the future with support from the community. The foundation currently holds the gala every year.

VOW-Inspire Network (Voice Of Wisdom) was happy to be on site providing media coverage for the event. More pictures of the 4th Annual Motherless Daughters Foundation Gala can be found in the album here on VOW-Inspire Network's Facebook fan page.
If you would like to support the Motherless Daughter's Foundation or be a part of helping the mission, more info on the organization can be found here on their website:

Godly Marriages and Courtships Still Exist

Godly courtships and marriages can and still do exist. Prior to the viral proposal and marriage that is #foreverduncan on the web there were mostly reports of celebrity divorces. The viral video that launched over the weekend showed the bride Sherrell and Alfred Duncan rejoicing and giving praise to God at the ceremony.

In the social climate we live in, in the U.S.A #ForeverDuncan was refreshing to see.

It was easy to see who they honored in that relationship, and how that same honor could be turned around and reflected toward each other.

It's true that life is not a fairy tale and being in relationships aren't always easy but #foreverduncan is a glorious example of what can happen when we put God first in every area of our lives. especially love.

There are still Godly couples in America that can function with true love and unity and I believe God is creating even more of them. They will become more prevalent despite what reports say and what most media shows.

It is my prayer that God continue to bless them with wisdom, discernment, and prosperity.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord. ~ Proverbs 18:12

What are your thoughts on marriage on courtship? How did you feel when you first saw the video? Leave a comment below.