By: Ruthann Mckenzie
I used to think that I had to be the absolute best at everything before I could commit to one thing. Everyone always seemed so much better at their talent or gift than me and I envied it. As a result I would quit what I may have enjoyed because I wasn't good enough in my own eyes at it. However, I was comparing my uncommitted beginner level to what someone put time and dedication into. I compared my progress to theirs and then quit. I never thought to keep going or perfect my skill or even learn from others. I would just quit and make the excuse that I wasn't good enough.
I've never really taken the time to examine why commitment was so important until I was listening to a sermon by TD Jakes about our lack of commitment. We have a slew of reasons why we cannot commit to something, our church, our dreams, our partner, the list goes on. What struck me most is we beg for blessings and want good things to happen to us, but we half commit or don't commit at all to what we should. Fear of commitment is an excuse if we are honest with ourselves. If you can't commit to anything, then you are blowing in the wind of indecision. Commitment is not the scariest thing we can do. Losing out on opportunities because of lack of commitment should scare us more.
Comparing what I had against what another person had only made my fear to commit that much stronger. There skills seem perfect, they have it all... And the secret here is that they are committed! I don't know the trials and errors they made prior to gaining the skills they have now. That is not for me to know either. What I should focus on is committing to my skills and making progress on building them. Progress will always beat perfection.
I've learned to follow some simple principles in order to remain committed to my dreams:
- Become fully committed to God. Whether you think so or not, He has always been fully committed to you. He created you with a great purpose in mind, even if you do not always believe so. If you want to honestly commit to anything fully, like the sermon points out commit to God first.
- Let go of fear. Fear is the largest hinderance in this life. Fear will always hold us back if we let it. So if you want to fully commit, then let go of being scared of failure or anything else.
- Stick with what you are good at and practice making those skills better. I would love to play the piano, but if I am honest with myself, it is not my talent. I would waste a lot of time trying to build a skill that may amount to me being mediocre at it. However, I am skilled with visual arts, such as photography. I am far better off practicing that skill until I become greater with it. My point? Stick with what you are actually good at instead of trying to do everything.
- Seek help from those who are more experienced than you. Learn from those who have been where you are and are willing to help. You will gain valuable experience and will be inspired to remain committed when you see your skills improve.
- Make sensible goals. Have goals that you will actually stick to and are achievable. For instance, if you want to save money for the new year, then that is too general. Take action by making attainable goals, like reading and learning about how to manage your finances, so on and so forth.